Since yesterday was Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about dating and relationships. This topic can be hard for people to discuss about, but I thought it was time to discuss this topic. In the world of dating and relationships, here are things people should know when their boyfriend/girlfriend is autistic:
- Do not be shocked about us having autism
- Make sure we understand what you mean when communicating with us
- Ask any questions you have because it shows interest in us
- Give us time to process important small and big decisions
- We are so honest about thoughts and feelings
- We can date and be in relationships like anyone else can
Now here are some advice for autistic people when it comes to navigating the world of dating and relationships:
- Go with the flow. I learned in my relationship of over a couple of years now that plans change. Know it is ok, and things are outside of our control. Stay positive about the dating process and being in a relationship. Life is good thank you think!
- Know that facing rejection and break ups will lead to better times. Facing rejections and break ups are part of life. I have been through them myself sadly. Just know that its ok to feel sad, anger, and etc. It is part of the process towards being with a better person and better boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Be interesting and interested: In my long time relationship, I have learned that being myself is the best! Make sure to have hobbies and interests that you want to share with the person you are dating/the partner in your relationship. You can even express your skills and personality, from being creative to knowledge of history facts.
- Demonstrate eye contact and be aware of body language: Face the person, show eye contact, and smile at them. Other important actions include holding hands, kissing, being next to them, and hugging. It shows the person you are dating or partner in the relationship you love them. Make sure though to let the person you are dating or partner in the relationship know your level of comfort when it comes to physical intimacy.
Any more tips do you have for a someone dating/ in a relationship with an autistic person or dating/ in a relationship with a typical person? Share your thoughts in the comments section!